Today I had a little conference at Friends Omphalos with the Co-Head of the Upper School and the Dean of Students. Let's call them Ms. Co-Head and Mr. Dean.
The take-away message is that they would like Older Daughter to be happy, but they're not willing to actually change anything. They can't even imagine what might be changed or how anyone could go about changing it.
I kept coming back to what I feel is the central problem, even more basic than the homework load: OD isn't engaged in the classes she's taking. This problem is especially acute in English and History, which ought to be interesting for a bright, verbal kid. Not to put words in their mouths, but the look on Ms. Co-Head and Mr. Dean's faces seemed to say: "You mean somebody might be interested in English or History?"
One very revealing moment was when Ms. Co-Head remarked that her own daughter attends Friends Omphalos and likes it, but "it's not about the classes for her." So, the kid who does well is the one who enjoys the social scene and maybe some of the extras like sports or orchestra, and is willing to do what's necessary to get through the classes. You call this education?
Sigh. One step closer to home-schooling, I'd say.